As always, keep in mind that everything you read is written IMNSHO and while I like people to comment, I don’t really care if you agree with me or not.
I’m not really get along too well with people, whose reasoning processes are based more on their EQ than IQ. But I simply can’t stand it, when people dismiss arguments purely on the basis on “it doesn’t sound right”, although the arguments are based on simple and direct logical reasoning. The common view of most of my female acquaintances, friends, colleagues and others is that I’m anEQ-challenged machist. Why? Well I do tend to question the balance of power, which is supposedly in men’s favor and I tend to disagree with women when they’re not making any rational sense. My ego certainly is huge, however I don’t think it impacts my ability to connect A to B and then conclude that if A == B and B == C then A == C, which is often completely incomprehensible to some people. But this is not supposed to be a bash on women (although from my point of view, speaking frankly, the vast majority of people, who disagree with me are, in fact, women) but more a question to reason.
In my simplified opinion, there’s 2 types of men. Those whose “dark side” is controlled and those whose isn’t. All men like to look at good-looking women. Period. Show me a man who claims that even while in a relationship never has, never does and never will even look at a cute pair of legs walking past him on the road and I’ll show you a liar. Or a saint - these fellers, however, tend to be quite rare. That’s the dark side. Now the type who actually has control over his more sinister nature will look at the legs, smirk to himself and walk away. The type who lacks that control however, will do anything in his power, to get that pair of legs to spread apart in the horizontal position.
I do have a simplified opinion about women as well. Again, 2 types exist. The controlling, uberpossessive and overly jealous completely self-unconfident hag, who has nothing better to do, than limit her man’s happiness is the first type. You recognize them by their men, who don’t even dare to check out the aforementioned legs, because they risk hell at best, if they get caught doing it. And there’s the self-confident woman, who doesn’t get intimidated by her man catching a glimpse of a random pair of walkers on the opposite side of the street (I’d say these are even rarer than the saints though :P).
You can guess, which woman (and man) makes the better partner.
There’s this philosophy I quite like myself:
Flirting is the essential part of happiness in life. ALL human contact includes some amount of it. As long it doesn’t mislead anybody to come to wrong conclusions and as long it stays completely harmless it’s OK, no matter who indulges in the sweet science of exchanging witty punchlines and even if someone hooks up with a stranger for a coffee, it’s no biggie. After all it’s completely natural, to widen the social network of acquaintances. It can come in handy in various situations throughout life. It’s a thing of the couple, where to draw the line. But I seriously dislike it, when people try to brainwash (or just bug someone) into accepting their theory about much and too much flirting.
I know people, who think that a happily coupled girl/guy doesn’t/shouldn’t feel a need to meet new people of the opposite sex unless it’s inevitable. “AND IF YOU MEET SOMEONE NEW YOU BETTER DON’T EVEN SMILE TOO MUCH!!!” That’s something you’d get to hear from the negative type of the woman, or most men (who in general have lower self confidence, when it comes to their women, than vice versa).
I once mentioned to some (girl)friends that I think everything goes until it gets physical in the sexual sense. They were appalled to say the least. Comments ranged from me better being happy that I have a GF who sticks with me despite me obviously being a total nutcase, to hilarious lines like that if I ever happen to get dumped by my s/o, I’ll spend the rest of my day in involuntary celibacy, because no other women are crazy enough to want to have anything to do with me.
Due to their extremely EQish perception, which launches a counterattack without even considering all facts, they failed to realize though, that I was saying that the rules apply to BOTH sides. I am COMPLETELY against ANY type of one-sided rules in a REALationship. This goes from paying 50:50 (or according to financial capabilities), to getting the right to sleep with another person if your partner does. And before some IQ-challenged EQ-oriented person jumps at that, calling me names, I suggest you notice that I didn’t say anything about actually using the right.
As funny as it might sound to the people (women) who know me, I’m completely for 100% emancipation, equality, same rights for everybody and all the other kinds of not-making-differences-based-on-stupid-things.
Now my definition of the abovementioned happens to include the duties as much as the rights. I like hearing about stereotypical sex-biased differences. I actually like researching differences and discrimination. I do work from the male viewpoint though, since women have (had) more than enough workers for their side. The most typical two stereotypes are:
Men are paid more for the same efficiency
Nobody takes women seriously
#1 is inherently retarded. It’s the era of capitalism. Whole industries move to the third world (or 2nd at least), because it’s cheaper. I can’t really imagine a business paying €100 if they could only pay €90 and get the same result. SOMEONE would notice the potential in saving €120 per employee per year and USE IT! On the other hand, in the USofA, chairwomen get paid more than men on average. Go google for statistics if you don’t believe me.
#2 is women’s own fault. How can a sane person take someone seriously, if they can’t competently participate in a debate? I haven’t EVER participated in a debate, where a woman wouldn’t be taken seriously, IF she made sense. I have quite a few really smart girl friends, who always provide good arguments in more or less scientific debates and I can’t recall anybody not taking them seriously in a serious debate. Of the 3 people whose opinion I value the most, 2 are women after all. The sad part is, some women think they can get credibility by wearing a low-cut dress instead of actually making sense. AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN! That can actually ruin (or at least worsen) your chances even if you DO make sense. Our dark side kind of interferes with our logical thinking and so we fail to see your point due to seeing too much of something else. And unless we’re really REALLY interested in what you have to say, we just won’t care about your 1337 knowledge about whatever.
I’m getting kinda bored with writing this, although It’ll probably prove useful in the future. If nothing else, I’ll just refer the next gazillion people, who call me a pig, to this post. I’ve said all of this numerous times and I’m slowly growing tired of having to defend my viewpoint. Yes, even though I criticize women, I actually like them. I criticize men as well. But everyone is used to men being criticized, so nobody pays any attention to that, while saying that a woman is less then perfect is blasphemy, which almost requires an immediate inquisitional process. Even though I like to look, chat, meet and flirt with other girls, I do love my GF. I firmly believe that jokingly saying stuff to other girls is better than (can you jokingly “do stuff”?) doing stuff to other girls and if someone says that saying (or god forbid thinking) something is the same as doing it, I won’t hesitate to remove him/her from my list of intelligent people. And I don’t care if you don’t care if you get removed. Just don’t expect me to take you seriously afterwards. I’m only human. I need a vent. And there’s no way I’ll apologize for venting sheyat outta my system as long I do it in a completely morally legal and legal legal way.
And for all the women out there, who feel offended by men grading women based on looks - GET OVER IT! It’s just a convenient way of quickly reminding a (usually male) friend of somebody you both saw. You might think it’s objectifying women but then you’re just stupid - sorry. If you would be thinking logically, you’d see that saying “the 8+ of last night” isn’t any worse than saying “the one with big tits, nice ass and sexy eyes”. If I ask a girl friend to describe someone, she’d start describing the looks. Such and such hair, hair color, eye color, type of clothes, color of clothes, shoes, bla bla bla. Same shit. I say chicken, you say that-animal-that-used-to-have-feathers-and-is-now-neatly-packed-and-ready-to-get-roasted-with-potaters. And if it makes you feel better, a select few have developed a scale, which takes into account all of your other traits, virtues, vices, perks etc. But that usually fscks up a woman’s rating. Sorry, we’re picky too, when it comes to personality. Actually, we’re MORE picky than you gals, when it comes to personality. That is, once we really start looking for the one to settle down with. Till then, looks will suffice.
Besides, I’ve never met a good-looking woman criticizing the looks-scale >:]] I wonder why that is.