Let me start by presenting what the usual after-people-get-home talk with their roommate/spouse/living-cost-sharing-partner talk sounds like:
#1: (just came home after a long day at work/university, probably Monday) Bwaah, home finally. Hi there #2
#2: (has been home most of the day) Hey there :D How was your day?
#1: Unbearable! I forgot my [insert something] at home, then I missed the bus, then I almost fell asleep in the office/classroom …
#2: Whoa whoa, calm down for a moment. Everything can’t have been bad!
#1: No? It gets worse. I didn’t get promotion/A-mark I was hoping for which means I’ll be stuck in the same position for the next year at least!
#2: Well that certainly sux. But did really nothing good happen throughout the day?
#1: Not that I know of.
Now you will probably say something like, “No wonder that #2 was in such a good mood. He spent the whole day long sleeping, eating and basically doing nothing but enjoying himself, while #1 had to do all the work.”
But imagine the following. #1 is a girl, who spent the whole night learning for an exam, then went to university and forgot her lucky pencil and almost fell asleep during her exam. #2 is a dude, who was learning the previous evening, without being full of coffee, went to bed at 2AM, slept until 10 AM skipping the morning classes that day, wrote and exam of the same difficulty as the girl and then returned home. #1 does it the same way every time and #2 does it the same way every time. #1 didn’t get the A she wanted before and probably won’t again. #2 got an A- and will probably again. Why I wonder? I’ll share a secret with you.
BECAUSE #2 TAKES IT EASY!
He found the perfect way in life. He’s doing what he has to but not because he has to but because he doesn’t consider it vital to his survival. Sure, if his life depended on it, he would probably be a bit more nervous too, but it was just an exam. He learnt until he was tired, then went to bed. He got enough sleep for his brain to actually work the next day and probably got his A-. #1 on the other hand was all nervous about the exam, probably for the past week as well, studied every day like crazy and instead of taking it easy and chilling for the last day, she spent all night long revising the materials. On the next day she was deprived of sleep, unable to focus and doomed to not get her A.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you have to be satisfied with grades/payment lower than what you actually deserve. But as in the stock market and all the other places in real life, there is a certain ration. It’s called for-how-much-would-you-torture-yourself-a-set-amount. The only difference between #1 and #2 in these terms is that #1 is willing to take 300% punishment to get 100% out of it and #2 is only willing to take 100% punishment to get 90% out of it. #1 will be totally burnt out by the time she hits 40 and #2 will be nice and easy and affluent for the rest of his life.
You have to take life easy. If someone asks you what happened to you today, at least TRY to think of something positive. By thinking about bad stuff only, you’re just asking for it to happen again. And if you don’t believe me, look at Heffner :D Do you think he’s thinking about some old hags at all? And before you say that he isn’t only because he is constantly surrounded by his bunny squad ask yourself this. Before he became THE bunny master, would he have started creating his bunny squad if all he was thinking about were old hags?
Be positive ;)